HABIT ONE: Overcome indecisiveness as you learn to deal with ambivalence.
Ambivalence is the coexistence of opposing attitudes or feelings, such as love and hate, toward a person, object, or idea.
- The mind of an ambivalent individual is like a blender that produces mixed messages – both yes and no. When you are uncertain, you tend to withdraw from anything that brings uncomfortable feelings. When it’s time to make a decision, the ambivalent person tends to shut down. If I burn my bridges, I don’t have to choose the unpleasant path.
HABIT TWO: Be more patient.
- Know that delayed gratification brings feelings of frustration and impatience. By nurturing a focused vision of your dreams, you avoid blinding emotions distractions.
HABIT THREE: Balance the emotional and rational.
- Ethical decision-making involves both rational and emotional perceptions. You’re not a robot; you’re a person, and as such, you need to let your feelings parse through you. Acknowledge the sensations. And give them context, but don’t let them overpower your decision-making process.
- Don’t second guess yourself and ask for too much advice. We often look for help when we know what to do, but are not brave enough to do it. I am not saying reject the perspective of others. Just be aware if you develop the habit of relying too much on what others think of your situation.
God’s delays are not God’s denials. Robert H. Schuller
You create opportunity, overcome indecisiveness by saying YES to the right decisions and NO to everything else!
Do you struggle to overcome indecisiveness? Is this your reality?
- Saying ‘YES’ to what you need and want requires focus, determination and impulse control. Do you need help to focus and deal with impulse control?
- Saying ‘NO’ to life’s distractions requires even more focus, determination and impulse control.
- It is far easier to say yes than it is to say no. — hence the problem you face. Get into the habit of saying no to 90% of what comes your way.
- Your choices are more reactionary than strategic.
- You struggle with ambivalence and indecisiveness and often flip on decisions.
- When you are indecisive, you avoid situations in which you have to make tough choices.
- Tough choices can be unpleasant. Subconsciously you prefer to avoid perceived impending pain.
- Sometimes you lack the assertiveness and self-confidence to give a firm no. Perhaps you are motivated by a desire to please. You want others to accept and love you more.
- You often ask others their opinion as you seek confirmation you have made the right choice.
- Emotions rather than rational thought impact your decision-making process. My heart tells me one thing but my head another. — hence the internal conflict.
The truth is – indecisive people look for advice when we know what to do, but we don’t feel brave enough to do it.