I wrote this post back in 2016. In 2020, I reread the original post and thought my 2016 piece of writing was crap! Four years will make a difference in your writing quality as long as you keep working at developing your skills.
Anyway, this post is my attempt to revive that 2016 post into something I hope you will find a tad insightful.
I encourage you to pour your heart out and write something quirky about you.
Then I challenge you to share it with others’ Put yourself out there, not caring if people agree with you or validate your perspective. Just don’t be an offence dick about it! — Play nice.
Here goes my friend
I’ve noticed that when my blog content has and ‘edge’ to it, people become more vocal in sharing their opinions. Reader engagement is a good thing.
However, if my posts are too controversial for your comfort level, you always have the option to un-subscribe, agree to disagree, ignore, or move.
“Say what matters because the alternative is more painful than the obstacles you will face in being unapologetically you. Being genuine lets you stand out above the crowd to keep it real. There is no greater gift you can give to heal our planet one simple act of inspiration at a time.” – Dan Trepanier
We are built upon the manifestation of our kindred spirit fostered by a desire to do what matters.
To make a difference, share our story, and improve the quality of life via one straightforward act.
We aim to be pragmatic yet whimsical every day, embrace our diversity, foster social inclusion and have fun along the way!
Deep down inside, you know that you and others like you can build a life that matters, to develop the right kind of personal and professional relationships you deserve.
It’s about doing what matters to LEARN - LOVE - LIVE a proud life on your terms.
We strive to be a doer, a giver, a creator, a leader, a mentor, a collaborator and a bit of a challenger of the status quo.
We craft stories knowing we inspire as we get inspired and connect with other kindred spirits.
Doing What Matters means summing up the courage to take a leap of faith and share things that have never been shared in public – to keep it real!
This concept of ‘keeping it real’ scares the hell out of many people (not so much me) because there is always a risk associated with ‘taking down the mask’ and exposing one’s fears, facts and stories.
Being authentic encourages others to do the same. Perhaps together, you and I can co-create relevant content that inspires others to live on their terms.
In 2014 I ran into someone at a local bar in Toronto who had known me only through my Facebook persona. Despite the frigid winter weather outside, the first thing he said was ‘why aren’t you sailing your Yacht this weekend, and please show me your tattoos because I want one.’ (beautiful pickup line – but I digress)
I was amazed at ho, in real life, he was shorter and younger-looking than on Facebook.
he was and thought he was younger looking online (shallow of me, I know)
Upon reflection and a little chuckle, our pub exchange got me thinking about how social media alters our perception of each other’s lives and realities.
“May your life someday be as awesome as you pretend it is on Facebook.”
What a brutal yet accurate reflection of our media sense of reality. A massive load of self-perpetuating bullshit masked so much by our online public persona!
Why is that? If you’ve been working in the corporate world for a while, it’s far too easy for much of the business poop to rub off, influence, and spawn the many facades we wear in public.
Now don’t get me wrong; I believe in digital reputation and brand management. I’m not advocating a free-for-all sharing of your wild-side.
There is an authentic, balanced approach I’d like you to consider.
Many people fear that if they bring forward their true authentic selves (warts and all), they will not be loved or respected or employed very long. Now, if you’re a politician or the CEO of a large company, I get that you likely have an image to uphold.
Jobs with formal boundaries between the many social dimensions of life turn me and many others off.
Remember, there are over 7.5 billion people on mother earth. Each person has a unique take on reality.
How many souls do you want to interact with – 100, 100,000 or more? The point is that as an ‘Online Creative’ (your followers and mine) are an absolute micro-fraction of the population. To be heard, you must focus on your authenticity.
Revealing only your puffed-up best side is a-dis-service to others who hope to connect with you in a real way. My exhaust yourself trying to maintain a picture-perfect persona.
I am far from perfect. Yet, there is perfection in imperfection. I have good days and bad days. I make my fair share of mistakes.
There is perfection in imperfection – Dan Trepanier.
I hope to keep it real and curate content in a somewhat edgy and provocative to cause a shift in your thinking. If I’ve pushed your buttons or elicited a reaction, I know I’m on the right track.
One of the guys who truly inspires me is Scott Dinsmore. His stuff is so good!
Scott used to say, ‘Because when you show who you are to someone else, it often encourages them to be themselves. And sadly, in a world of false images and representations, many people have never gotten the chance to be uniquely who they are — Scott Dinsmore.
With over 1,800,000 views of his Tedx content, Scott knew that authenticity is at the heart of everything prosperous.
- It’s the foundation of a bestseller.
- The heart of an inspiring speech.
- The core of a business out to change the world.
- It’s also the most powerful way to connect as a writer.
1) I like using pictures of cute men in my posts.
Oh, please don’t tell me you haven’t figured it out already! Just look at the imagery on my posts, follow me on Facebook, and you can tell I am a happy, grounded, out and proud member of a sexual minority.
- Choosing appropriate pictures on my posts that reflect my sexual orientation is quite frankly OK. (read cute guys). Pics on your posts that reflect your uniqueness are OK too. Yea, I lose points for not showing images of more women and cute babies, disabled youth, seniors, redheads and puppy dogs and… and… and… But know that if I were dark-skinned, a woman or a veterinarian, you would see more pictures of black people, women and pets.
- If all people were like me, the world would be a very dull place!
Diversity and social inclusion are critical to civil society. What I love about living in Toronto is the cornucopia of differences, diverse foods and ethnic communities, and YES Black Lives Matter!
I live in a city where, compared to most of the planet, we have evolved from merely tolerating to celebrating our differences and embracing our differences. How else would we learn, grow, be challenged and gain perspectives
“Love life and flaunt your quirks.”- Dan Trepanier
2) I’m not motivated to generate the most likes.
The stuff I post is inspirational, quirky and upbeat with a primary focus on the compassionate side of the human condition. There’s an up and downside to being brutally authentic. Some days I lose more followers than I gain, and that’s OK.
I’m not afraid to say what people are thinking. Behind my childlike wit, I am a competent, compassionate individual who loves collaborating with others.
I am consistent and prolific — sometimes, my passion is overwhelming.
When I try to explain what I do, people usually don’t get it or seem disinterested. Flying solo with an idea can create a feeling of loneliness for an entrepreneur – Dan Trepanier.