I got some feedback from someone the other day, and they were concerned about their privacy.

Particularly for somebody who is coming from a developing country where being gay or lesbian is a huge problem, and I want to assure you that I respect your confidentiality, and I respect your privacy.

And so, you tell me what it is you need. Some people are even still afraid of the secret Facebook groups. Yet, I have to say this; it is critically important at some point you trust somebody.

If you want to give me a fake name, that’s fine. But somehow, you have got a figure out a way to have a Facebook profile where you can connect with other people that are kindred spirits that go through the same challenges that you go through. 

And if it takes messenger or some separate app to be able to communicate. If it takes having a double persona, then do whatever it takes, but communicate with me, and be authentic, and be real. And chat with other people.

I think this is the challenge if you want to connect to the community, then you have to put yourself out there in the community. And I guess, perhaps, the simplest thing that I could suggest is that maybe you do figure out a way to have two Facebook profiles.

If you’re a Muslim person, for example, living in a community, there’s the old guilt by association. You know, you don’t want to be associated with my stuff, my website, because people will say, “Why are you communicating, and talking with this gay man from North America?”. 

You need to figure out a way to do this, and so chat with me around that, because what’s at stake here is your spirit.

“What is at stake here is your soul. To do what matters, to live, and to work on your terms, and to live life to its fullest, and to be a happy person. 

To be a happy person, you’ve got to figure out a way to connect with other people, and not be living a double life.”

And so, right now, I’m at Toronto Island, just a little FYI. Let’s change the subject here. I’m walking around, and it’s a beautiful, beautiful Saturday. And the sun is shining, and while I’m particularly enjoying it, it is just able to be spontaneous and to shot some videos, and share some thoughts with you. 

For me, it’s about five core human needs, significance, connection, belonging, contribution, and personal growth, and that’s what it should be about for you. 

It’s about connecting with other people. It’s about doing what matters to live and work on your terms.

And that means honouring your sexuality and figuring out a way to connect with other people that are like you.

Love you guys, send me a message, and let’s connect.


Dan Trepanier