Use your assumptions as stimulants, because how you perceive the world and yourself will determine what kind of life you live.

Dan Trepanier

Mentor Coach, 10 Powerful Assumptions About YOU

Let’s pre-suppose that these ten assumptions are beliefs that influence how you live and work on your terms.

  1. The way you see the world is your reality but not necessarily reality itself.
  2. As a person, YOU work perfectly.
  3. All the resources you need are already within you, waiting to be discovered.
  4. The type of response you get from others is because of the meaning THEY attach to your communication.
  5. You can not NOT communicate.
  6. Every behaviour serves a purpose.
  7. There is no failure, only feedback and learnings.
  8. Your mind and body are interconnected.
  9. What’s possible for someone else is undoubtedly possible for YOU.
  10. The person or element with the most flexibility will have the most influence.

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1) The way you see the world is your reality but not necessarily reality itself

After all, what is reality? You respond to YOUR reality and typically not to someone else. Your reality is based on your interpretations of people, places and things. 

There are billions of people, places, and stuff, so there are billions of subjective realities. Your neighbours’ truth is not necessarily the same as yours. You do not respond to reality but rather to your internalized map of reality.

2) As a Person, You Work Perfectly

You are NOT broken. All behaviour (interpreted as positive or negative) has a structure and serves a purpose. When you understand the fabric, you can change your results into something more desirable. 

You function correctly – warts and all to help a conscious or subconscious outcome. I believe you make the best choices available at any given time, given the resources you have. When you lack the appropriate support, you make compromising and compensating behaviours.

3) All the help you need is already within you, waiting to be discovered

Resources are your internal responses and external actions required to get the desired result. A crappy attitude is a resource, and so is a positive one. This belief opens up a world of possibilities for you.

4) The type of response you get from others is because of the meaning THEY attach to your communication

If someone misunderstands you, you don’t assume there is something wrong with them. “It” is what it is. Your verbal and non-verbal behaviour triggers responses in others — good, bad or indifferent.

It’s not only about a good command of language and delivery (although often that helps). It’s more often than not about helping someone deliver the desired response to what you just communicated. 

Some would argue that your expectations and intent vibrate to the other person and create a sixth sense perception in another person. This factor could influence their response.

5) You cannot not communicate

Your silences also send a message. What you don’t say or do also has meaning — be a way of that! You are communicating.

6) Every behaviour serves a purpose

Your response is always valuable somewhere at some time. Anger is useful when someone is under attack. Passion out of context may be an attempt to get people to understand. It may not, however, be helpful or gain the desired result.

7) There is no failure, only feedback and learnings

There is a silver lining in every situation, and life is about contrast. Without loss, you would not know about gain. Light is only perceived compared to darkness – You get my point. Every result gives you information.

8) Your mind and body are interconnected

Each affects the other. Our eye patterns reveal our internal sensory processing. Other behavioural cues are speech, tempo and breathing rate. 

Just as behavioural cues in the body reflect our mind’s functioning, accessing a particular behavioural signal can affect our brain’s operation. For example, slumping in your chair can make you feel tired.

9) What’s possible for someone else is undoubtedly possible for YOU

Individual skills are a function of the development and sequencing of representational systems. Any skill, talent, or ability that you have can be broken down into its components and taught to YOU. 

Assuming you do not have severe physiological or neurological damage. 

If the way you process information (perceptions and your ‘representational systems’) is not fully developed, it can cause some learning challenges.

10) The person or element with the most flexibility will have the most influence

The person with the most options and behavioural choices will control the system. In any field, the top people in that field have the most variety in their behaviour. They have options for behaviour that their colleagues don’t.

Any time you limit the behavioural choices, you give others a competitive edge.

Footnote: The presuppositions above are based on NLP (What is NLP?). They are not pure truth (what is?) but produce useful results. Beliefs can be self-fulfilling

If we believe someone doesn’t like us, our defensive manner can make this a reality. If we think we can master a skill, we persevere until we do.

These are beliefs that guide YOU and have helped guide me in the development of my coaching practice.